Relationship Help From a Guy's Perspective

Fixing A Relationship

You and your boyfriend have been fighting a lot. You don't know what is wrong. If he has been distant lately it is for a reason, miscommunication. He may not want to admit it, but he is upset. What he is upset over is up to you to delve out of him. Easier said than done.

There are a few things that may be bugging him. If you ask him what is wrong and he diverts the answer, it is probably a sensitive subject. If, you ask him if it is something you have done and he gives a curt 'no' you may have your unspoken answer.

The Male Perspective

Boyfriends don't want to intentionally hurt their partners. If you deeply upset him with something he may not want to tell you because he is afraid that by telling you, you will be upset. When you ask him if it is something you did and are almost immediately answered with a no, that means he has been preparing himself in case you asked. What you can now do is to try and figure out what you have recently done that may have upset him. Did you do anything out of the normal? Remember, try not to think of the things you have done as normal, but form his perspective.

Here is an example. Say that you went out to lunch with a friend. This friend happens to be male. To you it was simply a friendly lunch, but to your boyfriend it looks entirely different. This brings up a big issue many relationships face, communication. Even if you think something isn't important enough to communicate, you are wrong. Try and communicate more often with your partner.

Guys by nature are protective. They want to know you are safe. By communicating to each other, you are on the same page. This lets your boyfriend know you are safe. Not only does he have peace of mind about your safety, he also feels included. By including him, he will feel important. The simple feeling of importance goes a long way in improving someone's demeanor. By showing him you still value him, he will show he values you too.

Getting Past the Rough Exterior

Guys are expected to be tough. In actuality, not all guys are constantly tough. Guys actually like the attention. They just show it differently. A reason your boyfriend may be upset with you is if you are spending a larger amount of time with your friends than he is used to. This is by no means saying you shouldn't hang out with your friends, but try and give him a heads-up if you are going out with your friends. He may surprise you and return the favor by asking you to come along and hang out with his.

Other Issues

There can be external issues that may have him in a bad mood. By utilizing your communication skills you will show him that you care and want to work on your relationship. Helping him through external hardships shows him that he still does have a support network in you and he will open up. After he opens up you will be able to pinpoint what is wrong.

Holding Hands

Verbal communication may not be the only thing he need. Holding hands can do a lot to relieve stress and to feel generally cared for. This small, yet affectionate action further shows him how much you care. All these small things will add up and something will click in his head.Communication is key in a relationship. The more communication the better and stronger your relationship will be.

Opening Up

Try to get him to open up, slowly. Don't try and rush it. By trying to rush it, he may feel threatened that you are invading his personal space. By taking it slow, you show him that you respect his space and that he should trust you. Small actions will lead to big results.

Closing

All the small things will help your boyfriend open up. Paying attention to these small details will help resolve your issues. What you may feel is insignificant, he may believe is a monumental issue. By talking and showing that you care will help him open up and you will see how much he actually cares for you. I hope this helps.